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Mourning (Aveilus)

  • - עברית, Burial
  • Kidney

אדם שעובר ניתוח ומוציאים ממנו אבר (למשל כליה), מה צריכים לעשות עם אותו אבר?

  תלוי איזה אבר:   כליות: כיון שכליות הוא רק בשר מן החי ואין בגדר אבר - דהיינו בשר גידים ועצמות - אינו צריך קבורה. - ראה שו״ת אג״מ יו״ד…

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  • Mishte V'Simcha (Festive Meal), Mourning (Aveilus), Purim, Shloshim

Can a person in Aveilus (during the first 30 days) eat the Purim Seuda not at home?

  Yes, if they normally eat out for Seudas Purim. Even one who doesn’t normally eat out on Purim, if the cost of eating at home is prohibitive, or if one…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus), Shloshim
  • bas mitzvah

Can I go to my granddaughter’s Bas Mitzvah if I’m in Aveilus?

  Question: I am in the shloshim for the loss of my mother a"h. My granddaughter is having a bas mitzvah which will include music, dancing, and photography. It seems…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus), Shiva, Tachanun

If an Avel is davening in Shul and being Chazzan, should the Minyan say Tachnun?

  If the Minyan is in the Shul not because of the Avel, Tachanun is recited. It’s best if the Avel walks out for Tachanun. If the minyan assembled there…

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  • Krias Shema Al Hamita, Shiva, Tachanun

תחנון בקריאת שמע על המטה בבית האבל

  שאלה: כשא' מתפלל מעריב בבית האבל, ולאחר התפילה, בעודו בבית האבל, אומר ביחידות קריאת שמע על המטה, האם מדלג כל תחנון כמו יום טוב (שהרי הטעם שהוי כמו דיני…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus), Year of Aveilus

Should one continue doing the various customs done for the sake of the Neshama after the 11 months?

  Question: After the 11 months in the shnas aveilus, I stop reciting kaddish, but is it customary to continue doing all the customs for the neshama of the niftar,…

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  • Yahrtzeit

When is the first Yahrtzeit, the date of death or date of burial?

  Question: My father died יג חשון תשעט which was a leap year. He was buried טו חשון תשעט. What date will the first yahrtzeit be? The date of death…

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  • - עברית, Yahrtzeit

סיום קדיש והתפילה כש”ץ, כאשר הקבורה היא לא באותו יום של הפטירה

  שאלה: ראיתי בשערי הלכה ומנהג סי' קלט, שמובא שם תיווך כאשר הקבורה היא לא באותו יום של הפטירה, לגשת לעמוד בלי אמירת קדיש. וטעמו כי עיקר עליית הנשמה היא…

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  • Shabbos, Yahrtzeit
  • siyum, Yahrtzeit on Shabbos, מעשה רב

Can I make a Siyum Mishnayos for a Yortzeit on Shabbos?

  A siyum for a Yortzeit isn’t made on Shabbos. As for the custom of learning Mishnayos on the day of the Yartzeit, the common custom is to do so on Shabbos.…

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  • Davening, Year of Aveilus
  • kaddish

Kaddish Yasom after the minyan concluded

  Question: If a minyan finished davening (and concluded final kaddish derabanan) and someone in the year of aveluis arrived and wanted to say a kapital tehilim and kaddish yosom…

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  • Davening, Mourning (Aveilus), Year of Aveilus
  • candles by the amud, מעשה רב

Besides the five candles that a Chiyuv lights by the Amud during Davening, must two candles be lit regardless?

  There should be always two candles lit by the Amud. If there are five candles burning there, as per Chabad custom, that is sufficient. See also here: https://asktherav.com/whats-the-makor-to-light-two-candles-by-the-shtender-of-the-shliach-tzibur-is-this-minhag-chabad/  …

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  • Davening, Mourning (Aveilus), Year of Aveilus, Yom Kippur
  • chazan

Can an Avel be a Chazen on Yom Kippur?

  Question: I am a chiyuv. I am usually a chazan on Yom Kippur, but this year my normal shul is closed. I got an offer from a different shul,…

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  • - עברית, Mourning (Aveilus), Year of Aveilus
  • mishnayos, אבילות

השלמת משניות שאָבֵל רח”ל אומר בסוף התפילה

  שאלה: בשנת אבילות, שמנהגנו לומר אחרי כל תפלה משניות פכ״ד דכלים ופ״ז דמקואות: מה הדין אם שכחתי להגיד משניות בתפילת שחרית, ונזכרתי בתפילת ערבית האם אני יכול להשלים את…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus), Shloshim
  • Kapoteh, Rosh Chodesh Kislev, Yomei D'Pagra

I generally wear a Kapoteh for all Yomei D’Pagra. May I wear one for Rosh Chodesh Kislev? I am in the midst of the Shloshim for my father.

  No.   Sources: הנה, איסור לבישת בגדי שבת תוך ל׳ הובא בב״י יו״ד סוסי׳ שפט בשם הכלבו שהביא כן בשם מהר״ם. וכ״כ תל׳ מהר״ם בתשב״ץ תכו. והובא לדינא ברמ״א…

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  • Burial, Mourning (Aveilus)
  • Matzeiva

Is erecting a Matzeiva obligatory?

  Matzeiva is a kavod for the niftar and a tikkun for the neshma. Poskim address the need for a child or husband to pay for Matzeiva of parent or…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus), Year of Aveilus
  • cemetery, יו"ד שדמ

Is it an issue to visit the Kever of my grandfather during the first year after he passed away?

  The custom in many places is not to visit during the first year. If there is no established custom in the place where you are, you may go but…

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  • Birth, Mourning (Aveilus), Pregnancy
  • Miscarriage

Can I mourn my unborn baby?

  Question: When it comes to the laws of a נפל, the halacha is that there is no אבילות, and the custom is that the parents have no involvement in…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus), Yahrtzeit
  • 2nd marriage

After losing my husband, I Baruch Hashem got remarried. Do I still participate in my previous husband’s Yartzheit Seudah?

  It is not proper to do so.   Sources: ראה שו״ת חתם סופר חיו"ד סי' שנה. והובא בפת״ש יו״ד תג, ג. שו"ת הלל אומר יו"ד סי' רמג. שו"ת באר…

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  • Burial
  • Covid-19, cremation

Is it permissible to bury remains of a body that was cremated?

  Question: A man died in another country of natural causes. The caregiver had the body cremated (due to issues of cross-border transportation during these times). This man had previously…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus), Shloshim
  • beis hachayim

Is there an issue with doing a “Shloshim ceremony” at the Beis Hachaim during days of no tachanun?

  There is no problem with such a ceremony even when tachanun is not said, although if done within 30 days before Yom Tov no hesped or sad speeches should…

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  • Yahrtzeit
  • מעשה רב

Is there an Inyan in bringing a Minyan to the Beis Hachaim every year to say Kaddish on the Yahrtzeit?

  Although some have this custom, there is no known source for this and it's not mentioned by our Rabbeim and the Rebbe, even where visiting the kever is mentioned.…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus)
  • grandchildren, kaddish, או"ח קלב, יו"ד רמ, יו"ד שעו

Should a Grandson Say Kaddish for his Grandparent?

  Question: If someone's grandparent passes away and there are no sons or sons-in-law to say Kaddish and the family asks the grandson so say Kaddish, May the grandson do…

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  • Yahrtzeit

What should I do on the Yarzheit of a sibling who passed away as a baby (My parents are, thank G-d, living)?

  When one passes away without children, someone else should observe the yartzeit. Usually, the father observes the yartzeit, though some are particular not to say kaddish for a child…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus), Shiva

Can an Avel go to Shul during Shiva to say Kaddish?

  Question: I'm in the middle of Shiva and I can't make a minyan in the Shiva house. Is it better to stay at home without saying kaddish or go…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus), Tisha B'Av
  • music, Zecher L'Churban, או"ח תקס, זכר לחורבן

האם מותר להקשיב למוזיקה כיום לאחר החורבן?

  שאלה: האם הרמב"ם היומי (תעניות ה, יד) נוגע לפועל? "וכן גזרו שלא לנגן בכלי שיר כולם, וכל מיני זמר וכל משמיעי קול של שיר - אסור לשמוח בהן, ואסור…

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