Bar Mitzvah Archives

Is there any discussion/argument against throwing candies at a Bar Mitzvah by his first Aliyah?

Candies should certainly not be thrown as they are extremely dangerous. The original custom was to throw soft treats, such as roasted wheat and nuts, raisins, popcorn, etc. This…

My son was born in a Shana Peshuta and will IYH be having his Bar Mitzvah in Adar Sheni this year.

Question: He is very likely to be the 10th person for Minyan at the daily Davening that takes place in his school. Can he be part of the Minyan…

Stronger right arm but writes with left arm. Which hand does he put on Teffilin?

Question: This is a question about a boy I'm teaching for his Bar Mitzvah on Shlichus. If ones right hand is his stronger hand and does all activities with…

Is it okay to have a son under Bar Mitzvah burning the Chometz for you

Not ideal. Sources: רעק״א סי׳ תמ״ו על מג״א סק״ב, והגהות ח״ס שם, די״ל דלא מקיים בזה עשה דתשביתו, דאין שליחות לנכרי. וה״ה קטן. אלא, שבלא״ה שורפים לפני חצות…

Delayed Bar Mitvzah Party during Aseres Yemei Teshuva

Question: Our son’s birthday is in Elul. He wants to wait until tishrei to have a celebration with his classmates. Is there any issues with having the celebration during…

Can a Bar Mitzvah boy be Chazan on the eve of his Bar Mitzvah?

Can my son be Chazan on the Maariv of his Bar Mitzvah, or does he need to wait until the next day? Answer: Yes he can, as long as Maariv…

My son’s Bar Mitzvah is in the nine days. Can we serve Fleishigs if he will make a Siyum on a Mesichta of Mishanyos?

Yes, a Mesichta of Mishanyos (preferably with a Pirush such as Bartenura etc.) suffices as a Siyum to be able to serve meat. P.S. Technically, at a Seudah…

I help train boys for their Bar Mitzvah. My learning sessions are at night. Can I practice with the boys putting on Tefillin at night?

Yes, but you should make sure to mention that the mitzvah of putting on Tefilin is only by day, and make sure it is not for a prolonged amount…

The Rebbe said that Jewish children should have a letter bought for them in a children’s Sefer Torah.

Question: The Rebbe said that Jewish children should have a letter bought for them in a children's Sefer Torah. Because we cannot all afford to write a Sefer Torah,…

Does the father of a Bar Mitzvah Bachur receiving his first Aliyah on Tisha B’av recite Boruch Shepetarani?

Yes. Preferably the Aliya should be at Mincha. הליכות שלמה טו, ח. שו"ת דברי ישראל א, קמט. ועוד. #10314

Can one bring a Sefer Torah to their son who is Bar Mitzvah for Leining in their house without Minyan on Zoom with family? No Birchas Hatorah just Leining. Friday afternoon. Has been preparing.

One should not transfer the Sefer Torah out of it's set place to bring to read it in a home. There is no such an obligation to read the…

I am planning to make a Bar Mitzvah at 7 or 7:30, is there an issue with the timing because of Maariv which can only be Davened much later?

It’s not a problem. But make sure to break for Maariv. See Halacha2go.com #648. #4560

מחר הבר מצוה של אחי הצעיר והוא בע”ה יעלה לתורה ב-770. אבא שלי לא יכל להגיע. בנוגע לברכת ברוך שפטרני – האם אפשרי לברך באמצעות הטלפון?

האב אינו צריך להיות נוכח בשעת העלי׳. ויברך ממקומו. אבל, עליו לומר בשינוי קצת ״מעונשו של בני״, או ״בני פלוני״. וכדאי שיהיו עשרה במקומו. אבל אינו מעכב. ואם רוצה…

My son was born on Chof Adar and his Bar Mitzvah is this year. I assume that we make the Bar Mitzvah Seudah in Adar Sheini. My question is, is there a preference if the Seuda “celebration” is Or L’chof or Chof by evening?

The child becomes fully Bar Mitzvah in Adar Sheni. However, L'chumra, he is considered Bar Mitzvah already in Adar Rishon. He should put on Tefillin two months before Chof Adar…