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Participating in a Wedding During Sefiras HaOmer

Question: I have a Sefardi cousin who is getting married a week after Pesach. Am I allowed to go to the Chasunah, be there by the music and dancing…

Is it permitted for children to attend a parent’s chupah on Zoom?

Question Continued: My father is getting remarried tomorrow, and we, his children will not be able to travel to attend due to the covid-19 pandemic. He has sent us…

Article: Glove-free Mitzvos

The Gemora tells of a rather finicky Kohen, Yisachar Ish K’far Barka’ee, who would put on gloves before performing the avodah (holy work) in the Beis Hamikdash. Besides for this conduct…

As a guest, must one stand for the Chupa and if so, for all of it, or only certain parts?

One should stand at least to the Sheva Brachos, known as Birchos Nisu’in. Some Poskim specify to stand also for Birchas Eirusin. Nonetheless, the common custom is to be…

If one’s name was changed, does he need to fix the Kesuba?

No. בפועל, נהוג שלא לשנות את הכתובה. לפירוט השיטות בנושא, ואריכות בהסברת השיטות ראה בהלכה יומית אות תקיד. #967

I am trying to choose a date to get married. A good date would be Yud Beis Tammuz. Would there be a halachic issue having the wedding so close to the beginning of the three weeks and having sheva brachos over shiv’a asar b’tammuz?

The Rebbe actually mentions 13 Taamuz for a wedding date. Not a problem at all to make sheva brachos during the 3 weeks. Obviously on 17 Taamuz there can…

Is it true that a Chosson should wear all new clothes by his Chuppah?

Question: I’ve heard that the minhag is for the Chosson to wear all new clothing by the Chuppah. What is the source for this? And does it include a…

Is it OK for me as rabbi who is officiating at a wedding to use a Kesuba which has English translation after the signatures of the witnesses.

Yes, however the witness should not sign the English. The reason why it's OK, is because it says clearly that it's not a literal translation, thus any discrepancies between…

Can a Chosson send Mishloach Manos to the Kallah?

Also, can they directly pass items purchased for each other? Answer: It’s permitted to pass items to each other, if not done with the intention of gazing at her beauty.…

Can the Shomer for a Chosson be a Goy? Like an uber driver etc? How old does he or she need to be?

No. A Jewish child qualifies. מקורות טעמים: מסברא, נראה לכאו' דלא מהני גוי הן לפני החתונה והן לאחרי׳ ומכמה טעמים: הנה, המנהג שגם לפני החתונה לא יצאו החתן…

Is it Minhag Chabad to have the Chupa outside in the street or is it OK to have it indoors with an opening above the Chupah as is standard in many halls?

It is okay. ראה אג״ק חי״ב אגרת ג׳תתקכח: יישר כח על מאמרו נגד הפשרות, שזהו בקעה היותר מבהילה במדינה זו ובתקופה זו, ולא לבד שאין נוהגין כהוראת תורתנו במקרים…

Can I get married during the month of Cheshvan?

There is no Halachic prohibition in weddings during Cheshvan. Sefer HaMinhagim records Minhag Chabad as avoiding weddings in Cheshvan. However, in the later years (5740's), the Rebbe made it…

Can the Kallah who is fasting on her wedding day brush her teeth?

Yes this is permitted. דהוי תענית יחיד וע"פ המבואר בשו"ע סי' תקס"ז ס"ג ונו"כ, (ומה גם דאינו תענית חמור) וראה גם נ"ג נישואין פ"ו אות י"ג. #5301

Can the Kiddushin ring be white gold?

The custom to use gold is based on Kabalah. Now, there are many types of gold. The Gemara lists seven types of gold. There are variations as to the…

When 2 חתנים make their “שבע ברכות” in 770, at the same time, in the same room, can they make 2 separate שבע ברכות, or they make one, for both of them?

If there are two Miyonim they may split up and make two separate Sheva Brochos. Sources: שו"ע ורמ״א אה"ע סב, ג. פתחי תשובה ס"ק ו. בהתועדויות כ"ק אד"ש…

My Kallah is left handed, and I understand that there is a debate as to which hand the ring should be placed on. I would like to know the sources on this subject and how we Pasken practically.

On her left hand, unless she always places her ring her right hand. Sources: פשוט שכ״ז אינו לעיכובא - ראה ערוה״ש אה״ע כז, ד. ולא זו בלבד,…

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Participating in a Wedding During Sefiras HaOmer

Is it permitted for children to attend a parent’s chupah on Zoom?

Article: Glove-free Mitzvos

As a guest, must one stand for the Chupa and if so, for all of it, or only certain parts?

If one’s name was changed, does he need to fix the Kesuba?

I am trying to choose a date to get married. A good date would be Yud Beis Tammuz. Would there be a halachic issue having the wedding so close to the beginning of the three weeks and having sheva brachos over shiv’a asar b’tammuz?

Is it true that a Chosson should wear all new clothes by his Chuppah?

Is it OK for me as rabbi who is officiating at a wedding to use a Kesuba which has English translation after the signatures of the witnesses.

Can a Chosson send Mishloach Manos to the Kallah?

Can the Shomer for a Chosson be a Goy? Like an uber driver etc? How old does he or she need to be?

Is it Minhag Chabad to have the Chupa outside in the street or is it OK to have it indoors with an opening above the Chupah as is standard in many halls?

Can I get married during the month of Cheshvan?

Can the Kallah who is fasting on her wedding day brush her teeth?

Can the Kiddushin ring be white gold?

When 2 חתנים make their “שבע ברכות” in 770, at the same time, in the same room, can they make 2 separate שבע ברכות, or they make one, for both of them?

האם מותר לחתן שמתחתן באור לל”ג בעומר להסתפר יום או יומיים לפני כן?

כמה ימים לפני החתונה חתן צריך ליווי?

What is the source why we use an opaque veil for the Kallah and not a see through one?

My Kallah is left handed, and I understand that there is a debate as to which hand the ring should be placed on. I would like to know the sources on this subject and how we Pasken practically.