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Mourning (Aveilus)

  • Chanukah, Mourning (Aveilus)

Chanukah Party for an Avel

  Question: Can a person in Aveilus within the Shloshim host or attend a Chanukah party? Does it make a difference before or after Shloshim?   Answer: Throughout his time…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus), Upsherin
  • אבילות, יו"ד שצא

My husband is in Aveilus. Can we play music at our son’s Upsherin, even though he and his siblings are in attendance? Do they each serve something to someone?

  Answer: You may have music. The Aveilim R’”L should not pay attention to the music. Certainly, not to join any dancing. Yes, each one of the Aveilim should be…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus)
  • shoes of a deceased person

Used Clothing

  Question: Is it permitted to buy used clothing from a thrift store or to get a donation of used clothing from someone? Is it allowed halachically to wear someone…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus)
  • clothing, shoes, shoes of a deceased person, תאות הלבושים

Used Clothing & Ta’avos for Clothing

  Question: I have a very expensive taste in clothing, but I have very limited income. (When I first developed my taste, I was able to afford the quality I…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus)
  • shoes, shoes of a deceased person, אבילות

Is there an official Chabad Minhag regarding wearing/not wearing shoes of a deceased person?

  There is no formal Chabad tradition in this matter, though to the best of my knowledge people generally are particular about this. The only formal reference that I’m aware…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus)
  • הלכות אבלות, יו"ד שצג

Must a Avel during Shiva have a Shoimer to leave the Shivah house by daytime? (Like to go home on Friday afternoon etc.)

  The common custom is to be particular only by night. נהגו בשמירה באבל ר"ל רק בלילה (כשאין עוברים ושבים). עצם חיוב השמירה - כשמתירים לאבל לצאת - אינו מובא בטושו"ע יו"ד…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus)
  • Covid-19, vidui

Should someone who is about to go on a ventilator due to Covid 19 say Shema and Vidui?

  Question: Should someone who is about to go on a ventilator due to Covid 19 say Shema and Vidui as statistically there is a greater chance of one dying…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus)
  • הלכות אבלות

During the year of Aveilus, am I allowed to buy a new wedding dress to wear for special occasions?

  The custom is not to buy or wear new clothes and expensive attire during the mourning period of a parent for 12 months. However, when there is great need,…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus), Yahrtzeit
  • cemetery

I was once told that one cannot visit a parent’s grave if it has been more than 7 years since the last visit. Is this halacha?

  Some have a custom that one who has not been by their parent's grave for over 7 years should not visit anymore. The original source is a quote in…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus), Year of Aveilus

Is one allowed to go on summer day trips with their spouse and/or kids during the year of Avielus?

  With family - yes, but not with friends.   שו״ע יו״ד שפ, כה.     #10493

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  • Haircut, Mourning (Aveilus), The 3 Weeks, Year of Aveilus
  • gaara. mourning

Three months since my father’s passing will end in the three weeks, can I take a haircut before the 3 weeks or only after?

  Question: My father was niftar in the end of Nissan. I understand that one is supposed to wait 3 months before taking a haircut. The 3 months end in…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus)
  • aveilus, music during aveilus, nigunim

Background music in Shloshim video presentation

  Full Question: We are making a shloshim video presentation for my father. Are we allowed to put music in the background of the video? Most of it will be…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus), Yahrtzeit

Yartzeit for unknown

  Shliach: I was asked the following by a mekurav: My brother was drafted into the Russian army many years ago. We haven't heard from him in a long time…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus)
  • nichum aveilim

Can you say “hamakom…” to someone who lost their spouse after shiva is over?

  The custom is not use that expression; rather other forms of nichum aveilim.   במכתב שלקו״ש חל״ה ע׳ 269 שלאחר שבעה אין להשתמש בנוסח המקום ינחם וכו׳. וצ״ע שסתימת…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus)
  • shiva

Today (Friday) is my 6th day of Shiva of my mother. What time is it considered Chatzos that I can get up. What am I permitted to do after Chatzos? Can I cook? Can I shower? Whats the laws regarding Shabbos?

  המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים. This day should be considered as any day of Shiva until Shabbos comes in. A bit before candle lighting time one…

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  • Burial, Mourning (Aveilus)
  • Chevra Kadisha

Is disinterring and re-burying allowed?

Someone who died in a NY hospital was deemed an apparent indigent person, no family or contacts. The family living in a different state found out a couple weeks later,…

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  • - עברית, Mourning (Aveilus)
  • אבילות

 האם עדיין יש להדליק ה’ נרות בשעת התפילה אף שאין מנין בבית?

  כך מסתבר.   ולהעיר מאג"ק ח"ג ע' שעב (לאחד שלא יכול לעבור לפני התיבה בשנת אבילות): ונכון במאד שבזמני התפלה יתן לצדקה לעילוי הנשמה וילמוד משניות, וגם ישתדל לברך…

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  • - עברית, Mourning (Aveilus)
  • אבילות

האם אכן מותר לאבל לאכול עוף או בשר?

  לאכול בשר ולשתות יין - מותר.   מקור: שו"ע יו"ד שעח, ח: כיון שנקבר המת מותר לאכול בשר ולשתות יין מעט בתוך הסעודה כדי לשרות אכילה שבמעיו אבל לא…

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  • Marriage, Mourning (Aveilus)

My wife A”H was niftar last summer. I learned that you must wait for three Yomim Tovim to pass before you can remarry.

  Question: Could I get married Lag B’omer or Should I better wait until after Shavuot? In other words, Does Shmini Atzeres count as one of the three?   You…

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  • Mourning (Aveilus), Talmud Torah
  • aveilus, Moad katan, מועד קטן

Is there any issue in teaching the last Perek of Mishnayos Moad Katan to children as part of a camp curriculum, being that it deals a lot with the subject of Aveilus?

  Although there is a reservation regarding learning the laws of Aveilus when not necessary, this does not apply to learning mishnayos and gemara which is not Halacha L'maase, especially…

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