Question: Is it OK to go to the Ohel at night? How about not eating; I can't eat all day, or it's OK not to eat just from Shkiah?…
Question: Is it OK to go to the Ohel at night? How about not eating; I can't eat all day, or it's OK not to eat just from Shkiah?…
יארצייט של יהודי עבור “משפחתו” שאינם בני ברית
שאלה: אנו נוהגים לשלוח לאנשי הקהילה מכתב לרגל היארצייט של בני משפחתם, עם תזכורת לבוא לבית חב"ד ולומר קדיש וכו'. במקרה שבני משפחת הנפטר - אינם יהודיים, האם מותר…
האם מותר להמשיך להדליק נר נשמה לאחר סיום השנה?
שאלה: אשה אחת סיימה את השנה אחר פטירת אביה ע"ה שאלה באם מותר לה להמשיך בהדלקת הנר למשך תקופה נוספת. האם יש בזה ענין כלל? מה כדאי לענות לה? …
Question: We are doing renovations on our home. As far as leaving an area untouched as a Zecher L'Churban; what is the bare minimum that must be done in…
You may buy your spouse a birthday present. ראה שו"ע יו"ד סי' שפ"ה סעי' ג', או"ח סי' תרצ"ו במ"א ס"ק י"א, דרכי חסד (אושפאל) סי' כ"ד סעי' י"ח,…
There is a Halachic requirement to bury the deceased in the ground itself. This prohibits burial in a wall, such as in the wall of a crypt or mausoleum.…
The custom is to avoid going, although strictly speaking, halachically it’s permitted. When there is need to go (she really wants, etc.), it’s best not to be in the…
You're allowed to go to the wedding. If you don’t usually travel overseas to your grandchildren‘s weddings, you should not travel now either. See here at length: https://asktherav.com/what-parts-of-a-wedding-am-i-allowed-to-go-to-during-the-year-of-aveilus-i-have-a-first-cousins-wedding-who-i-am-very-close-with-and-would-like-to-go-even-for-short-while/…
1. מתי תתחיל לשבת שבעה? — מיד. ע״פ אג״ק ו ע׳ קג. וכן נתפשטה ההוראה. והטעמים המבוארים שם שייכים גם לעניננו. ובמק״א - לע״ע אינו מוכן לדפוס - הארכנו.…
It's just like all other days of mourning. One may not wash in hot water but one may wash their hands, face, and feet in cold water. Alternatively, one…
It is forbidden to send gifts to an Avel during Shloshim (YD 385:3). If your main intention is not to provide the meal as a gesture, but rather, to…
You may join the Seudah and even have music if this is normally done every year and your participation is important as host. Nonetheless, you should not actively try…
Can one give a birthday present to a sibling? An appreciation gift to coworkers? Answer: One should avoid giving presents during the year of "Aveilus" on a parent.…
Question: My husband has Yortzeit for his father today. His sister in law (My sister) is making a wedding for her daughter. The Chuppah is before Shkiah, so it…
I have a first cousins wedding who I am very close with, and would like to go even for short while. Answer: One may attend the Kabolas Ponim…
One who is cremated by their own choice is not mourned nor is Kaddish recited for them. However if it was not by choice or they did not have…
Question: I am living in Beersheva and I will be going to Jerusalem for the first time since arriving in Israel tomorrow. What are the important things I should…
Yes. See here for a similar -but different- case: https://asktherav.com/32094-can-an-avel-who-has-yartzeit-on-chanukah-lead-the-minyan-with-hallel/ Sources: פשוט, שעיקר השקו״ט הוא בנוגע לאבל באמירת הלל, כיון שאינו שרוי בשמחה ושאין לו לעורר שמחה.…
You may attend the Bar Mitzvah. Sources: לכל לראש, ד״ז הוא ממנהגא - ד״מ יו״ד סוסי׳ שצא. רמ״א שם וסוסי׳ תב - ולא מדינא, ויש שחלקו וכתבו שלא…
There are two issues: 1. English on a Tombstones: Many Poskim forbid the usage of languages other than Lashon Hakodesh on a tombstone. As part of a Zechus for…
No. Sources: .ראה רמב״ם טומאת מת ג, יג שאינו מטמא ושו”ת יוסף אומץ להחיד”א סוסי׳ ל’ דרובא דעלמא לא חשו לזה מלבד חכמי המערב שהיו זהירים בכך. ועיי״ש…
If it’s customary in her family to buy birthday presents, or if you always buy her birthday presents, and this is an expected behavior, you may buy her a…
Adar Rishon. But if possible should daven and say Kaddish Adar Sheni too. Sources: See Rama 568: 7. Kitzur SA 221:3. See also Likkutei Sichos 16 p. 342…
Question: Is the placenta considered a part of the person and therefore requires burial or can it just be thrown out in the garbage? Short Answer: No need…
