Hair Covering During Relations

 

Question:

My wife’s Tichel falls off a lot during Tashmish and she has to keep on adjusting it. Must she wear it during Tashmish?

 

Answer:

The Zohar states, and it’s quoted in the Alter Rebbe’s siddur (as part of the text to recite before relations), that both husband’s and wife’s head should be covered – seemingly with the same covering – during the mitzvah. One who practices this, need not be concerned if the tichel falls off.

If this is not done, then the wife’s hair should be covered and the husband should also wear a Yarmulke.

There are many types of hair covers, tichels etc. Certainly with a little effort one can find the right type of tichel which will not need adjusting or won’t fall off.

 

Sources:

ראה זח״ג ויקרא יט, א (ובפי׳ מתוק מדבש שם). מ״ח מסכת השכיבה יא, י. כה״ח מ, יז. הלכות ומנהגים בסו״ס דעת הקדושה לרמב״ן מהריא״ז מרגליות ז, מד. וראה שיקדש עצמו (נחמנסון) ע’ 483 בארוכה.

ולהעיר מכה״ח רמ, סו.

 

 

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